Part Two: Deconstructing The Myths
We were taught love wrong.
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You Don’t Need to Earn Rest in Love
Somewhere along the way, rest became conditional. Something you were allowed after you showed up enough.After you explained yourself clearly.After you reassured, responded, accommodated. You learned — quietly — that love was tied to output. How present you were.How available.How much you could give before needing anything back. So when…
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Why Exhausted People Struggle With Intimacy
When you’re exhausted, intimacy is often the first thing to disappear. Not because desire is gone.Not because love has faded.But because your nervous system is overwhelmed. Exhaustion changes how the body experiences closeness. Touch can feel like too much.Conversation can feel like effort.Even emotional connection — something you deeply want…
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The Version of You That Love Consumed
No one tells you that love can slowly erase you. Not in a dramatic way. Not all at once. It happens in small choices. In adaptations. In the parts of yourself you set down because love felt more important at the time. You become easier. Quieter. More accommodating. You learn…
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When Love Starts to Feel Like Pressure
Love doesn’t usually turn into pressure all at once. It happens quietly. In small moments. In expectations no one ever says out loud. You start noticing the weight of it in your body before you can name it. The way your chest tightens when your phone lights up. The way…
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Rest Is Not Rejection
When you’re exhausted, rest can look a lot like distance. You reply slower. You cancel plans you meant to keep. You sit quietly instead of reaching out. And suddenly, something innocent gets misread. Did I do something wrong? Why are you pulling away? Are we okay? But rest isn’t rejection.…
Say The Unspoken 