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The Lies We Tell Ourselves to Delay the Pain
We don’t lie because we’re dishonest. We lie because the truth hurts too much to hold all at once. So, we soften it. Stretch it. Promise ourselves later. At first, the lies feel gentle. Maybe this is just a break. Maybe time will fix it. Maybe if I change, it’ll…
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How Do You Grieve Someone Who’s Still Alive?
Grief usually comes with funerals. This kind comes with updates you don’t open. With a name you still know by heart. With a life that keeps moving just no longer with you in it. There’s a special confusion that comes from grieving someone who still exists. They’re out there. Breathing.…
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Love Is Not Meant to Be Survived
Somewhere along the way, we learned to endure love. To brace ourselves inside it.To prove our commitment through exhaustion.To stay even when our bodies were asking for rest. We told ourselves that love was supposed to be hard that struggle meant depth, that sacrifice meant devotion. But love was never…
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Choosing Love That Doesn’t Cost Your Health
At some point, exhaustion stops being a phase and becomes a question. Not “How do I push through this?”But “What am I willing to keep paying for love?” Because love that consistently costs your health eventually costs everything else too. Your sleep.Your clarity.Your sense of self. And choosing differently doesn’t…
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Quiet Love Is Still Real Love
We often mistake intensity for depth. Big gestures.Constant communication.Overt displays of affection. We’re taught that love should be visible something you can point to, measure, prove. So, when love grows quieter, people get scared. The texts slow down.The conversations soften.The energy shifts. And suddenly, quiet gets confused with distance. But…
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Loving Each Other Through Different Energy Levels
One of the hardest seasons in love is when you’re not tired in the same way. One person still has energy to talk, to plan, to connect.The other is moving slowly, conserving, barely getting through the day. And suddenly, love feels uneven. The one with more energy wonders if they’re…
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Communication When You’re Too Tired to Explain Yourself
There are moments when the hardest part of exhaustion isn’t the tiredness. It’s the explaining. Finding the words.Softening the truth.Making sure your honesty doesn’t sound like rejection. You know what you feel —you just don’t have the energy to translate it into something digestible. So instead, you go quiet. Not…
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Love That Makes Room for Your Nervous System
Healthy love doesn’t require you to override your body. It doesn’t ask you to push past your limits. It doesn’t demand presence when your nervous system is signaling overwhelm. Instead, it makes room. Room for pauses. Room for quieter seasons. Room for the reality that human beings are not endlessly…
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You Don’t Need to Earn Rest in Love
Somewhere along the way, rest became conditional. Something you were allowed after you showed up enough.After you explained yourself clearly.After you reassured, responded, accommodated. You learned — quietly — that love was tied to output. How present you were.How available.How much you could give before needing anything back. So when…
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Why Exhausted People Struggle With Intimacy
When you’re exhausted, intimacy is often the first thing to disappear. Not because desire is gone.Not because love has faded.But because your nervous system is overwhelmed. Exhaustion changes how the body experiences closeness. Touch can feel like too much.Conversation can feel like effort.Even emotional connection — something you deeply want…
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